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A Mother Is Always At Work
There are two types of mothers in the world: Those who stay at home and take care of their kids, and those who go to work, then come home, and take care of their kids. Being a mother is the ultimate job, which can sometimes seem thankless, undervalued, and certainly never paid. To everyone else, she is a woman, a wife, a daughter, a lady, a friend, a worker, a businesswoman, an employee, a woman, an aunt, a niece, a cousin, a sister-in-law, and the endless occupations she could be working in, but to you and I: She is mom or mother.
Brandon Lee said it best in The Crow, “Mother is the name for God on the lips and hearts of all children.”
A mother has to deal with little bosses who never seem satisfied with her work, and shortly after she has done her job of cleaning up after them, she usually has to prepare and do it all over again within five minutes. A mother ensures her children are prepared and ready for school, while also making sure she herself is ready to face her own job or just face the day of chores, cooking, cleaning, laundry, and just as she is ready to settle down, the children come home from school, her husband comes home from work, and she has to help the children with their homework, her husband with any stress he has gone through during the day, and make sure that she has prepared a meal for her family.
If she is not a stay-at-home mother, she has actually gone to work, dealt with the everyday stresses of the job, and still come home to put on her mother face. A mother face means that she has to forget about some of the stresses of her job, in order to not be angry or frustrated with her children or her husband.
If this wasn’t enough, she has still yet to take herself into account. This is not to say that mothers do not have their husband or children to help them. For sure, a mother who is trying to teach her children and even her husband will lead by example, delegating some chores to each family member. Whether it gets done or not — is a whole other story.
If she is a single mother, she is not alleviated from any of her duties and her stress levels. Her chores and duties are probably doubled or tripled, as she has to be the sole breadwinner for her family and ensure that her children are taken care of.
The job of a mother is a severely underrated occupation and is not seen as an actual job or occupation. Regardless of her health, a mother must still be a mother. She does not have the choice of a sick day nor does she have any options to take off from her job as a mother. She also receives no benefits of a week or two-week vacation and while she hopes that the investment in her children will grant her a great return someday of children who will care for her and all that she has done for them when they are older, there is no guarantee nor does she really expect it, but she does have hope that her children will care for her and take care of her when she needs them.
While a mother cannot put that she is a mother on her resume, employers should take into consideration all the actual experience she does possess, including organization skills, cleaning skills, memorization skills, psychotherapy skills, cooking skills, mathematics skills, accounting skills, managerial skills, hunter-gathering (grocery shopping) skills, sewing and knitting skills, janitorial skills, and customer service skills — and through all the stress her children put her through, she still manages to put on a smiling face, and love the very human beings that give her purpose and meaning, yet drive her crazy. She can do all this while at home and then she still goes to work and manages to do her job there.
What is this power a mother possesses? What can we learn from our own mothers? Why do we not appreciate our mothers as much as we should? The very mothers who spent nine months of dealing with pain, sickness, and illness, only to be a chauffeur, servant, cook, cleaner, teacher, psychiatrist, psychologist, and leader to the children she produced? This is the job of a mother.
If you have not called or hugged your mother today, you may want to consider doing it now. Call your mother, tell her you love her, and that you appreciate all that she has done for you. Without your mother and all her hard work, you certainly would not be the person you are today.
To my own mother: I love you very much and I appreciate all that you did and do. You are the very first woman I saw in my life and you are the most amazing woman alive. Without you and without your hard work, I would not be the man I am today. Thank you, mom, for being you. I love you!
This infographic is about Mothers at Work.
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Moms at Work and What They Think About It
51% Feel guilty about not spending enough time with their kids
57% say flexible hours are important
40% are the sole main breadwinner
85% think that “showing my kids that women can succeed professionally is important”
Infographic by www.Meditec.com
Mother In Different Languages
|Azeri (Latin Script)||Ana|
|English||Mother, Mama, Mom|
|Frisian||Emo, Emä, Kantaäiti, Äiti|
|Ilongo||Iloy, Nanay, Nay|
|Indonesian||Induk, Ibu, Biang, Nyokap|
|Limburgian||Moder, Mojer, Mam|
|Punjabi||Mai, Mataji, Pabo|
|Sardinian (Limba Sarda Unificada)||Mama|
|Sardinian Logudoresu||Madre, Mamma|
|Spanish||Madre, Mamá, Mami|
|Swahili||Mama, Mzazi, Mzaa|
|Swedish||Mamma, Mor, Morsa|
|Turkish||Anne, Ana, Valide|
Matthew Gates is a freelance web designer and currently runs Confessions of the Professions.