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Make Your Sex Life Better
If you’re in a long-term relationship then the initial can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other honeymoon period is probably a distant memory. During those early stages of a relationship your levels of dopamine and serotonin are off the scale as you give in to lust and get to know your new partner’s body. However, after the initial rush of chemicals in the brain, the honeymoon phase wears off and you’re left with a relationship that needs to be nurtured.
After those first few months of intense physical attraction and lust you’ll enter the attachment stage. This is where you’ll really start to get to know your partner and start to feel more comfortable with them. Sharing your life with another person means that they’ll see you at your worst as well as your best, and it’s only natural that this can affect your sex life after some time.
If you and your partner have become a bit too comfortable with one another, complacency and laziness can set in, causing you to stop prioritising sex. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, you shouldn’t have to settle for a boring sex life! Whether you’ve been together for 12 months or 12 years, there are a variety of ways that you can spice up your sex life and fall in lust with each other all over again.
Our infographic gives you a few tips here to get you started; and don’t forget to make good use of the internet, whether you’re looking for tips from sex bloggers, or some viewing material to help you put the spice back into your relationship!
Infographic courtesy of HB Health of Knightsbridge
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IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE TODAY
- 10% of people within a relationship don’t think they’re having good sex.
- 50% of women would like to have more sex.
- 63% of men would like to have more sex.
It might feel as though things are getting a bit stale between you and your partner. This might be because you’re both getting on a bit, you’ve been together along time or because outside factors are affecting your relationship. Whatever the reason for your dwindling sex life, don’t worry it can and will get better! Just follow these simple does and don’ts and you’ll be having mind blowing nookie in no time.
- COMMUNICATE: Discuss your feelings with your partner and don’t forget to tell them when they’re doing a good job.
- TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS: This will make your sex life more interesting and may solve problems by stimulating different areas.
- BE AFFECTIONATE: Be affectionate with one another in and outside of the bedroom. This will maintain the healthy bond needed for sexual relations.
- BE ADVENTUROUS: Spice up your sex life by trying out new locations, using toys, erotic messages, etc.
- TAKE IT SLOW: Trying new things can be scary so take your time. Always discuss / ask permission beforehand.
- DRINK TOO MUCH: Although it may lower your inhibitions, consuming too much alcohol can have a negative effect on your sexual reflexes.
- IGNORE YOUR PROBLEMS: There may be medications and treatments that could solve your problems. It’s much less of a taboo nowadays.
- WORRY ABOUT OTHERS: There’s no answer to the question of how often you should be having sex It’s up to you.
- LET YOURSELF GO: In men and older women, long periods without sex can have a detrimental effect on the sexual organs. Kegel exercises can help.
- GIVE UP: Always keep trying and don’t let self-consciousness get in the way. A therapist or doctor might be able to help.
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