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Choosing To End My Bloodline
When we speak of life, love, and even of the religious texts, we will find a common theme in everything we do: choose to meet your mate, have children, and continue on your offspring, or your bloodline, as it was passed down to you. This is the general consensus and agreed upon by nearly all of humanity. After all, if there were disagreement, there would not be 7.5 billion (7,500,000,000+) human beings on this planet.
The result of these human beings are by accident and on purpose. For some people, choosing to make babies is a choice, and some people may have one child, two, three, or more. For other people, choosing to make babies is not a choice, and it was done by accident. Whether the couple thought they were in love at one time or being that giving life is so easy, it can take less than two minutes to actually conceive it, and thus, a one night stand could have occurred.
Other possible and unfortunate scenarios have occurred in our past and continue to occur, and that is usually that women have been the spoils of war, in which the conquerors would now get to assume the claim on these women, and it was not always pleasant, as there could be rape involved. To this day, rape is still alive and well within all societies and on every country on this Earth. It happens and hopefully someday the human race will have the ability to stop it, but for now, the result of two people getting together, usually by means of sexual intercourse, create the ability to produce a new life and give usually a soul to that life.
Modern technology has also allowed for the creation of life with the sperm and the egg without the need for the host of a mother to carry a child at all. The fertilization process is done through a tube and incubation, in which a child may grow. For the most part, however, for couples who cannot conceive, a man donates his sperm, while another woman donates her eggs, and a woman is now able to carry the fertile eggs of another woman. So a man and a woman are not technically necessary to create a baby, though the product of that man and woman, the sperm and egg, are requirements.
There are also a very small few, probably a population that exists of less than 2% and I will now speak for them, not as them, but what I believe is how we think and feel about the whole situation. I have no children. I never planned for this. I have the ability to make and produce children, but I choose not to do it. I happened to meet a woman who is now unable to have children, thus contributing to my cause, the cause of not adding to the population; of not bringing any children into this world. Why would I choose this life? Why would I choose to end my bloodline?
It is not to say that I am suicidal at all. I am not what most “scientists” today would term “asexual human”, as I love sex and the act of it. I love having sex and I am attracted to the opposite sex. I also love life very much and hope to be alive for as long as I possibly can. One day I may regret my decision, but in my 30s, so far, I have no regrets. I had met a few women that I would have loved to call the mother of my children, but unfortunately, they did not choose me in this life, and no connection between us became possible. There was probably a time or two where I looked at a woman, spoke to her, and for some reason, knew she was the one to be the mother of my children, just as a woman sometimes looks at a man, and her genetics scream at her to make a baby with him. However, this never happened, and I am not upset about it at all.
Instead of being upset, I have had one less financial stress in my life, one less emotional stress in my life, and a lot of things. Yes, I know some of you parents are arguing with me about how great a baby is, and I do not deny your claim. Children are two sides to a coin: wonderful and horrible. Yes, raising your offspring has been no easy feat and if they were, bless you. You should write a book because there are millions of parents wondering how you did it. But for me, I only know what it is like to not have children, to be without offspring, and to be in the likely chance that unless I were to cheat on my spouse, there is 0% chance of my ever having children.
For some reason, I am okay with this. This is me, with complete control over my situation, choosing to end my bloodline. I will not be a father to my own blood. I will not have a spouse who is the mother and blood of my children. Children for me is simply not possible and for the time being, it is a responsible choice. I look at the world and I wonder how parents do it. There is so much war, famine, greed, and evil, but on the opposite side, there is also peace, prosperity, charity good, and that is certainly what could help parents to justify their needs to bring children into this world. Of course, when two people have sex, and a child is conceived, most do not think that aborting the child could ever be an option, and thus, 7.5 billion human later, we are quite a populous planet with no end to our extinction in sight.
I choose to end my bloodline because I do not feel the need to bring another being into this world. The power to give life is quite easy, though making the connection with another person, which is beyond just one night of intimacy, is not always the easiest. In this life, it was just not in the cards for me to have children. This is not a cry for help at all in me secretly telling you to read between the lines that I want children; absolutely not. The choice I make in ending my bloodline is my own sober, confident, and comfortable decision.
In choosing to end my bloodline, I feel it is also the means to end my soul in this realm; just as a monk, a Priest, or a nun, would choose to remain abstinent in hopes of obtaining their own spiritual enlightenment. For me, it is not anything that is religious, nor could I even call it spiritual, but it is a calling: a calling to end my bloodline. Whether it is my own soul telling me to do so in order to be at rest for eternity or to live within the realm of immortality beyond time, I cannot say for certain. It is as if giving my blood will continue it and weaken my own blood and soul. It is really something I cannot explain, and anyone who might be reading this would think I am crazy for even thinking or typing it. If we remove all the spiritual and religious belief, I am simply someone who existed on this Earth and I died.
For those with children, who might otherwise take strongly to their Bible, and say it is a selfish act of me, for ignoring the commandment of “be fruitful and multiply”, I feel it is not selfish at all. If you have a child or more than just one child, and I die off, who was the bigger consumer? Who contributed more to the destruction of the planet? On the other note, wouldn’t it be just as selfish to think the entire planet was for you? After all, human activities in the past 200 years have caused more animals and insects to go extinct than in all of human history.
Of course, you cannot blame yourself for bringing your child into this world. Does Adolf Hitler’s parents or Stalin’s parents blame themselves? How many mothers with murderous children refuse to accept the reality that their child caused destruction in the world? How many people have abortions in which, if the child was allowed to be born, would have been the inventor for space travel or the scientist whom was capable of extending our lives for another 50 years? There is really no way of knowing what souls and humans born are capable of doing, but for me, I prefer not to continue my bloodline in the story of humanity. For most people, it is simply acting on an instinct to reproduce.
As I said: I am not suicidal. I have no intentions of ending my life any time soon. The goal is to end my bloodline by not passing it on, by not having children, by no longer contributing to the destruction of the planet, or the physical world, for which my offspring would dwell. There are plenty of people who want children but are alone, and there are plenty of people who have children and do not want them.
The wants and desires of all humans are across the board. For most people, however, who have children, especially women: they could not imagine their lives without their children. For me, I cannot imagine my life with children. Maybe at one time I did, but once that became no longer possible, the dream of having children ended, and so did the desire to continue my bloodline.
For the woman I met who I am currently with (at the time of this writing), she already had her own children, two of them, and can no longer have any more. She has played a great part in my role of choosing to end my bloodline, and it is not her fault nor is she the one to blame. She is 100% alleviated from any responsibility of my own choice in not having children.
She had offered a means for us to be able to have children as technology could allow for her to have children again, but in our discussions, I had mentioned that she made this choice long before she met me, and that if she had made any other choice, we probably would have never been. Thus, her choice to remove her ability to have more children is what brought us together, and is likely what will keep us together.
She is not an obstacle or an obstruction to my ability in having children, as I am perfectly capable with a normal sperm count, but I do love the woman I am with, and to think, “I could go find someone else” is just not an option. If I told you to leave your wife or husband (don’t answer that… just kidding — don’t worry, they probably aren’t reading this), but the truth of the matter is, you probably fell in love with your husband or wife and the choice to leave someone, for most of us anyway, is not an easy one. Thus, my lady has simply aided in helping me to end my bloodline.