Don Jon: The Truth About Porn and Relationships

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The Appeal Of Porn

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There is something dangerously addicting about porn.  Maybe its the way the porn actresses look or maybe its just that sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality. Porn was created for men, by men, using both men and women. With porn, you can have a different girl every night, you can orgasm in any position you want, imagine doing it anywhere you want, and you can imagine sticking it anywhere you want, and finishing anywhere you want.

Porn is all part of your imagination and while sometimes you may prefer the real thing, there is something about the fantasy that makes it so appealing. A movie that came out a while ago, Don Jon (starring Scarlett Johansson and Joseph Gordon-Levitt), went over this. As attractive as the man was, and a man who could have any woman he wanted, he always found himself turning to porn.

As Don Jon said, and I paraphrase, you could meet up with a sexy woman who is looking to get laid, take your time with her, wine and dine her, bring her back to your place, be as romantic as you possibly can, seduce her with rubbing and kissing, slowly moving down her sexy body, as you make your way between her legs, removing her clothes, and kissing up her thighs, making your way to remove her underwear, and kissing and licking in between to reach the ultimate goal, her toy, her sweet spot, her clitoris.

Some women keep it smelling fresh and nice down there, while others just have a nasty odor that some men can overlook, while others avoid it at all costs. If you are a woman and you really want your man to go down there, make sure it smells good and if you are so self-conscious about it, have a lick at it yourself and see if you could imagine yourself eating yourself out.

If that man progresses and does a fantastic job, he hopes to expect the favor to be returned in which he will get the most satisfying masterful blowjob in the universe. She may spit or she may swallow or she may not even be down there long enough to have done anything for him. He is left, all but disappointed, hoping that at least, he can settle for the next best thing and have the satisfaction of sticking his dick into a wet warm comforting pussy.

And the reality could be several things: She only likes missionary. She only likes it from the side. She only likes it under the covers because she’s too self-conscious about her body. She only likes doggystyle because she has issues about becoming too intimate. She only wants to use his dick as her plaything and the romance is nonexistent.

The worst case is that she is never in the mood ever, does not care for sex, and thinks that the relationship is normal. She thinks that relationships should not always be about sex, and a man is supposed to act like his relationship with her is normal, and still consider himself to be a man, despite the fact that she literally chopped his balls off and expects him to still be a man, supportive of her in the relationship.

It works both ways: A woman may date a man, get to know him, and have to invest her time into him before she can even see and feel his penis and measure it up to her standards – she has no idea what she is getting, especially if he is a 1-minute man, or can last more than 10 minutes, while a man never knows all the issues a woman is going through sexually or non-sexually, or how intimate (giving), or non-intimate (non-giving) she really is.

When it comes to porn, you can have any woman you want and she will always be intimate with you in your fantasy. You don’t have to get to know her. You don’t have to know what she does for a living (obviously for this girl, it’s porn). You don’t have to take her out on several dates before you get to experience intimacy with her. She is turned on as quickly as you are, just as she is turned off as quickly as you are. There is never a moment where your fantasy girl and you are never on the same page, where you are not sexually compatible. She is in the mood as soon as you are. How you want to engage with her is up to you. No money spent on her in hopes to win her over. Just you and her instantly.

You can start off with a blow job, eat her pussy out if you really want (viewing pleasure anyway), or skip it, and jump straight to fucking the shit out of her, as she tightens those powerful kegel muscles around your dick, followed by a little anal action, and then cum between her breasts, on her back, on her stomach, or even cum so deep and so hard inside of her pussy, all without complaints or worry about much of a mess. Later on, you could even have a threesome with two different women and not have to worry about wining and dining them, or things leading to jealousy. The women you choose are just there to have sex with you and leave with no drama: the ultimate fantasy. You have nothing to worry about though, because it was all your imagination and the seed you just leaked out had no way to fertilize itself.

Afterwards, there is no cuddling, there is no bitching, whining, or complaining about the fact that it was about you and not her. You don’t have to worry about the fact that you were selfish and came first, or got yourself off first without taking her needs into account. When you are done is when everything ends, and you can roll over and go to sleep, not feeling guilty about anything, unless you’re a Catholic and feel that you sinned and need to confess. But if you feel it is a normal act of your human behavior, than you can sleep at night in peace, knowing that you just had a nice orgasm by yourself and there is nothing to be guilty about.

The issue with porn though is that it is not real. It is all actors and actresses who are on film for a few hours and put on a show and this could lead to any man or woman being less intimate because of his or her high expectations. Porn, like any other addiction, can ruin the mind, and distort reality completely.

Relationships and companionship are a normal thing to want and to have, but a porn addiction can lead to a man or woman pushing away any chance at intimacy or companionship with another person, and before they know it, they are so addicted to porn and living in their own fantasy world, they find themselves alone.

There must be some balance. As with the conclusion of Don Jon, finding the right person who can please you both as a companion and intimately will make you forget about porn, or at least, reduce your porn addiction, because your satisfaction with the other person somewhat meets your fantasy, your reality, and your expectations.

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