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Challenge of the Week: Spread the Love
We often do not say it enough or when we do say it, it almost seems automatic, rather than out of real genuine love. We tend to take those we love the most for granted, saying hurtful things, doing things that might be hurtful, or not making those who matter most a priority in our lives, either choosing to make those less important a priority, or making work a priority, while ignoring our family.
If we only told the right people that we love them more, perhaps we would be happier and they would be happier too. We tend to go to work everyday, get into a daily routine, where our loved ones become part of that routine, and life seems to be on automatic, from thinking about what to make for dinner, to making lunch, to getting the children off to school, to arriving at work, and getting settled in, while preparing for the day, to coming home, where everything still remains part of the routine.
Loving our family and having our family love us is completely expected. It is part of the normal expectations that many families stop saying it to each other and rarely do, finding themselves only saying it in on occasion, but saying it, hearing it, meaning it, means a lot more than most of us realize. Those words to our loves ones, to our spouses, to our parents, to our children, and to our siblings, “I love you” means a lot. It is the genuine appreciation that that particular person is in your life.
While most of us do for our families and our families do for us, which means a lot and implies that our family loves us or that we love our family, the words need to be said more, for one day, you will wake up, and realize, the words are never used by anyone in the family. Our loved ones could be here today and gone tomorrow, and the fact remains: Appreciate and love what you have in the moment. Tell each member of your family that you love them this week. Get into the habit of saying it, but don’t make it so routine that it loses its meaning.
You can also tell your friends who are close to you that you love them, as they shed light into your personality and are usually there for you.